The relationship we have with food is a true reflection of the relationship we had with our mother when we were breastfed. The baby associates from the beginning the ideas of food and love.
I need my mother’s love, but her love is too oppressive, too terrifying.
Better, I vomit my mother, I do not need her care, I can take care of myself.
When a mother has toxic emotions during breastfeeding, the milk turns sour and the baby feeds toxically.
On the other hand, a loss during the lactation stage that the mother can experience as a very strong separation (such as the death of someone very close) can cause the baby to be abruptly weaned.
Also, when the mother becomes pregnant again during lactation and she stops feeding the first to feed the second, having the feeling that she gives the new what should be the first.
The second baby is the one who can develop the feeling of not being fed, that the mother does not give him enough “warm” food.
“I want security from mom and what she gives me is anguish and insecurity.”
“What mom gives me is what I don’t want” (that’s why I take it out again)”,
“I would like the affection my mother gives me to be different”
Ultimately, faced with this dilemma, she seeks a physical substitute by gorging herself on food in a hasty and excessive way, to such an extent that she needs to vomit to continue eating.
The bulimic person tries to control her distress through food.
When he suffers tension, when he is deprived or frustrated or he feels fear and insecurity, he always turns to food.
It is as if he wanted to return, unconsciously, to the moments of his childhood when his mother’s arms provided him with everything.
“Deep down I’m anxious and I want to hide it”,
“I feel a great emptiness inside me and a lot of anguish, so as to fill that emptiness, which is never filled”,
“Nobody understands me, I feel alone”, “I fear not having the affection of others”
Conflict with sexuality: “sexuality scares me; I don’t want to talk about it”
If in current life, the person who has this symptom has not lived these experiences with his mother, without a doubt he will analyze his family tree, because most of the time, the origin of bulimia is found in programs inherited from their ancestors.
He should look for very serious stories between mother and daughter, related to mistreatment, rejection, abuse or rape, etc.
Recommendations to recover physical, emotional and spiritual health:
In moments of crisis, the bulimic has to become aware that what he wants is to correct the imbalance between the need for her mother and the fear of being abandoned or rejected by her.
They must consciously leave childhood and youth behind and become adults.
But fundamentally what they need is to accept their feminine principle and accept themselves as a sexual being.
Unconditional love and acceptance are essential.
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