The oral character structure, or abandonment wound, is distinguished by an inability to be aggressive.
Individuals with this type of personality have difficulty adopting oppositional attitudes, tending more to flee than to confront and attack.
As a consequence of experiencing the frustration of deprivation and abandonment as infants, children try to become independent to compensate for the loss.
Therefore, it is very common for them to learn to speak and walk earlier than normal.
Individuals who have felt abandoned absorb energy from those around them, as they are unable to obtain this energy from their natural environment on their own.
This draining effect can be detected in their manner of speaking, in the form of chatter that exhausts their interlocutor.
It can also be perceived in the “vacuum cleaner” eyes these individuals have when they are absorbing the energy of the person listening to them.
Or through the very soft tone of voice they use to capture the attention of their companion.
Another way to obtain energy is through the cords of the third chakra, which unconsciously connect with those of the person they are speaking to.
If we are aware of this, we may notice a certain discomfort in this area and a feeling of exhaustion or fatigue.
A person with an abandonment wound is inconsistent in their decisions, feels adrift, and lives in a state of permanent waiting.
They try to find fulfillment and well-being through greed, live immersed in a sea of ​​desires, and find no limit to achieving their satisfaction; nothing seems enough.
Individuals with abandonment wounds have great difficulty giving; they are afraid to do so.
When they do give something, they are overwhelmed by a sense of loss, which they cannot bear.
They try to fill themselves physically with food, drink, alcohol, etc.
Psychologically, they do so with pleasures in general: shopping, television, sports, music, work, etc.
And in interpersonal relationships, he absorbs the energy of others through his endless chatter or by trying to become dependent.
However, he can never feel satisfied because desires are fleeting, they belong to the mind, and as such, they are just dreams, illusions that prevent you from seeing reality.
Furthermore, he has lost his sense of responsibility and blames life and other people for not providing him with the satisfaction he so desperately needs.
In addition, he tends to give in to weakness, feels empty, and is unwilling to take on responsibilities; if pressured, he is prone to fainting.
He typically feels sad and depressed and becomes anxious about any situation in life.
He is also prone to tears, especially when talking about his life, lamenting and blaming others for abandoning him when he needed them most.
As a result, he lives with a victim mentality and constantly seeks attention.
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