Individuals with an abandonment wound are very demanding in their relationships.
However, they don’t reciprocate in kind; rather, they have narcissistic interests.
In romantic relationships, their attitude isn’t based on giving and receiving, but rather on needy and demanding behavior.
The partner is seen as the provider of everything, their source of emotional and energetic fulfillment.
Certainly, their heart is thirsty, and they demand that the other person always give them more: more love, more attention, more sex, etc.
However, since their greed knows no bounds, they tend toward frustration and then blame their partner for their dissatisfaction.
Likewise, they have great difficulty giving, and if they do, it’s always with the intention of receiving something in return.
Furthermore, they use empathy to try to manipulate their partner, expecting later to be rewarded.
However, they harbor the feeling that they are generous and give a lot, yet they believe that their efforts are rarely reciprocated.
Internally, the individual with an abandonment wound always expects understanding, sympathy, and love.
Conversely, they are excessively sensitive to any sign of coldness from their partner.
The fear of losing their loved one lurks in their subconscious and represents a great threat.
Furthermore, if the relationship goes through a rough patch, they will look the other way and deny the problem.
They will never find sufficiently compelling reasons to end the relationship and embark on a new path, as losing someone and being left alone, with all the negative consequences that would entail, would be terrifying.
If the partner decides to “end” the relationship, the person will be surprised because they would be unaware of the problems and will feel devastated, depressed, and broken.
Due to their fear of abandonment, they will cling to their partner, even becoming possessive and jealous.
Typically, in their relationship, they are kind, helpful, and pleasant, always expecting reciprocation and satisfaction.
However, if their partner doesn’t meet their demands, their demeanor will become unpleasant, and they will experience feelings of rejection, resentment, and hostility.
This may even trigger a sudden outburst of hysteria, which fortunately usually doesn’t last long.
For someone with an abandonment wound, having children is not something that particularly excites them, as the responsibility of being a parent is immense and frightening, especially for women.
However, men are more concerned that if a child comes along, their partner will stop providing support and attention, something unbearable for them.
Extracted from my book The Task of the Soul, if you are interested you can purchase it by clicking on the Amazon link:
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