The important trauma in the rigid structure is the frustration in the search for erotic satisfaction, especially the genital one.
This structure begins to develop between the ages of three and five, the stage in which tender and sexual sensations are awakened.
His early experience related to sexuality is disappointment and rejection, either because of the prohibition of pleasure in erotic games, such as masturbation.
Or because he feels rejected in the search for sexual pleasure by his parent of the opposite sex.
In this stage of tender and erotic delivery, driven by his desire for contact, the child approaches and does not feel welcomed and recognized.
Until now, the rigid individual enjoyed very strong love and approval from the parent of the opposite sex, but from that moment on he sees how the latter begins to distance himself from him.
The child experiences the experience of being totally rejected, because of what he is feeling as a novelty in himself:
because of his tender and erotic stimulation, since erotic pleasure, sexuality and love are the same thing for a child.
The rejection suffered will prevent him from being able to integrate and feel, at the same time, sensory and emotional pleasure, both with himself and with others.
That is, the child, from that moment on, experiences a split between his heart and his sexuality.
EXPERIENCES FROM OTHER LIVES THAT HE BRINGS IN HIS MEMORY:
People with a rigid structure defense have gone through experiences in previous lives in which they were in control of the situation.
It is very likely that they have held the power of being a king, queen, leader.
Or any other position of similar importance, in which the responsibility contracted with the outside world forces them to maintain an irreproachable behavior.
Your responsibility prevents you from having any problems or showing any signs of weakness or making any mistakes.
Their behavior must be exemplary in the face of any adverse circumstance, and their appearance must be that of a perfect person.
Other experiences that have been able to form this structure are related to experiences in which the individual has gone through, at one point in his life, intense suffering (death, brutal separation from a loved one, abuse, torture, etc.), the which he could not bear and, unconsciously, in order not to suffer again, he repressed his feelings, closed his heart and became numb to pain.
Extracted from my book The Task of the Soul, if you are interested you can purchase it by clicking on the Amazon link:
(Image taken from the book Hands of Light, by Bárbara Ann Brennan)
